Well with it being October, ladies and gentlemen I'm here with a limited series just in time for the holidays called "BARE SCARE!" These are things us men want you to know but are just too damn scared to tell you. For this week's BARE SCARE - these are the Top Five things us men are scared of most!
The Modern Man's life is so hard in today's day and age. Society has put so many restraints on what we can and can not do. Today's social network has required men to be the undoubtedly successful bread-winner, problem-solver, strong, fearless, courageous, emotionless and handsome one; all at the same time. I mean we can't get a break. Every guy you see is growing a beard just to keep up with the latest trends of masculinity.
So your bearded friend may not tell you, so here I am to do it for him. For all men, people, this is the top five things we are freaking out about when we say we are FINE.
Nothing is worse than being broke. Honestly right now I'm terrified even writing this. Men are naturally wired to provide, the moment that is in jeopardy they lose all sense of worth and from there it's a downward spiral. Unfortunately, this is the one fear that is impossible to overcome, that's why I put it first. Life is unpredictable you never know when that financial ice burg is dead ahead. So you better get that life boat ready!
BEING MAN ENOUGH
"Big boys don't cry!" The common phrase used by those over achieving masculine men truly just crying for help. Men are so terrified of not being "manly enough." This is one that I don't get. But I understand the need to not be taken for a beta in life. There is so much pressure on men to walk around with their chest pushed out and their beard as long as possible. But you can be an alpha without over exerting your testosterone levels. Listen men, it's okay to give X's & O's. Trust me, once you change your mind set of what masculinity means to you, you no longer fall into the stereotypical trap that society has put on that word. Listen ladies, this is a real fear, next time your man says the word "cute." Don't laugh at him but laugh with him at how cute he is.
This one is probably a given. Who isn't afraid of age? But I'm sure you've heard of that one guy who had a mid life crisis and cut off all his hair and joined a bike gang, in hopes of a rejuvenated libido. We all have an uncle Steve. Don't be an Uncle Steve.
We do worry way to much about getting old, losing our attractiveness. So ladies, if you don't want your man to spiral down a black whole of wild spending and depression...be his biggest fan! Let him know he's good lookin' and still gets you going. Let him know you value his mind and mature sensibility and that'll make him more man than any young whipper-snapper could ever be.
THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE
This is true, sorry guys I'm spilling the beans. We hate the doctor. Yup, we will make any excuse not to go. But truth be told, we do worry about our health & our fear is in the realization that something could be wrong and in turn affect all the things we stand for.
This is something we just have to get over. Because health is important. Men over the age of 30 should regularly get check ups, because the best thing you can do for yourself is prevent something from happening.
I saved this one for last to bring this blog all the way home. Emotion, it's a double edge sword for us men. Because we have a tendency to keep things close to our hearts in fear of being rejected. By the way, rejection is on this list but didn't make my top five. Back on topic, showing no emotion is ingrained in a man's head from the day he is born. When little boys cry it's not long before his Parents say, "boys don't cry." Crying then becomes associated with girls. Which leads to boys growing up to men who truly believe that this stereotype makes sense and makes them mentally strong.
Nice short and sweet, but before I let you go. Let me say, let your man be emotional. Don't be hard on them, let them show that emotion and as they learn more about that side of them. They will become not only more in touch with themselves, but with you. Sounds like a win-win to me.